if you love something, set it free. if it does not come back to you, it must be destroyed.

about people

complaining is fun.

what does not kill you will make you more stronger and more cynical.

people will hate you for no apparent reason.

whining is a form of manipulation. people will give anything to make you shut up.

beware of those who have never been bored, depressed, or angry. there is something seriously wrong with them.

greasy food may not be very good for your body, but it does wonders for the soul. a healthy diet may prolong your life, but what would you have to live for? what is the point of living to a hundred if you have to subsist on bland food? one may as well die of boredom.

astrology is the best kind of general absolution. it's not your fault. it's in the stars.



about men

the uglier the guy, the greater the possibility that he thinks he's God's gift to women.

between you and an insipid girl who is easy to control, a guy will choose the insipid girl who is easy to control.

all the good men are either taken or gay.



about the L-word.

love is a form of hysteria. fortunately, it always passes.

the trouble with "mutual understanding" is that it often turns out to be a unilateral delusion.

in relationships, it is best to assume nothing.

love is irrational, which is why we have the knack for picking the one person who will make us miserable. the question is: do we pick that person because we want to be miserable?

while being madly in love is fun, perhaps one should aspire to be sanely in love.

it is an unpleasant fact of life that one day you look fabulous, you will not run into the person who causes your pulse rate to break the sound barrier. the day you look like a trogolodyte, that's when you see the person. events conspire to present you to the beloved in the worst possible light.

to be obsessed is to dedicate all your faculties to desiring a person. and then it is no longer enough to desire - you want to become that person.

the question is not why fools fall in love. it is expected of them. when "smart" people fall in love, that's the problem.

although it might flare up instantly, love dies with excruciating slowness. you may decide at this very moment that you are no longer in love, and your brain might understand perfectly, but the rest of you will take time to grasp this radical concept. the heart and the stomach are particularly slow to learn.

and so you may be sure that the affair is over. and still feel a stabbing pain the area of your heart when someone mentions his name. you may have exorcised him from your life, and still feel a punch in the gut when you meet him accidentally.

the expression "madly in love" is apt, for it describes a form of temporary insanity.

listen to the good advice of your friends. thank them for their concern, then do exactly how you feel. hey it's your life, just don't whine afterwards.

if you love something, set it free. if it does not come back to you, it must be destroyed.



- jessica zafra.